Buckle up....
This needs to be talked about..
If you're anything like me crushes are hard to navigate and disappointing for a multitude of reasons.
Personally I can never work out the balance between obsessive and passive, sometimes I can let someone I really love slip through my fingers and other times I can obsessive to the point of insanity.
When you're trying your hardest to revolve your world around someone it's no doubt that you will be both exhausted and craving that certain person's attention. I've spent hours upon hours perfecting my hair and make-up for someone to see before I watch them ignore me and talk to their own crushes, we're all stuck in a loop of unrequited love, unless you're popular or pretty you are a victim of this loop. Of course everyone is beautiful in their own ways but society enjoys labeling people on their outer appearance.
As much as we all deny how society works It still taints our brains, for example I absolutely adored someone for years and in reality he never loved me like I loved him which of course was not his fault but I still wasted my time on curling my hair every morning before school just for him. This is dangerous, when you start changing yourself then you need to detach yourself and your own self-worth from that person. I know it's easier said than done but there are songs I still can't listen to as they remind me too much of times that I was hopelessly optimistic in the love he didn't have for me.
Of course crushes can be good and although I've not experienced it I'm sure they are often mutual. Don't lose yourself in somebody else, ground yourself in your own morals and beliefs, it sounds silly but getting over a crush can be just as painful as getting over a relationship yet nobody gives people credit for getting over a crush despite the love that was surrounding it.
I've thrown all the emotions I had into people who realistically didn't even notice.
I'm not saying that crushes are bad but I do want to share some advice. A crush is the same as lust, when you lust over someone you need to draw a line at some point or you will forget what you deserve.
The line between infatuation and love is very faint but still there, PLEASE TRY TO FIND IT. Love is a very strong word that is misused over and over again and I hope for your sake that it is infatuation. This isn't because infatuation is somehow less important because I know how compelling and obsessive any form of crush can be but ultimately love is harder to get over and creates much more heartbreak in the long term. Crushes fundamentally change us and shape us into people ready to find long-term life partners, they even help to develop and find our sexuality within a world of confusing lessons. No matter how you feel about someone, whether the love is requited or not please remember that you are strong enough and have the power to get over any love that you have for anyone. You create the love and can therefore overpower it, never let it control you.
Love is mutual, equal and never one-sided. Closure is ideal but protect your own heart before you go loaning it to other people.
-Hannah xx
If you're anything like me crushes are hard to navigate and disappointing for a multitude of reasons.
Personally I can never work out the balance between obsessive and passive, sometimes I can let someone I really love slip through my fingers and other times I can obsessive to the point of insanity.
When you're trying your hardest to revolve your world around someone it's no doubt that you will be both exhausted and craving that certain person's attention. I've spent hours upon hours perfecting my hair and make-up for someone to see before I watch them ignore me and talk to their own crushes, we're all stuck in a loop of unrequited love, unless you're popular or pretty you are a victim of this loop. Of course everyone is beautiful in their own ways but society enjoys labeling people on their outer appearance.
As much as we all deny how society works It still taints our brains, for example I absolutely adored someone for years and in reality he never loved me like I loved him which of course was not his fault but I still wasted my time on curling my hair every morning before school just for him. This is dangerous, when you start changing yourself then you need to detach yourself and your own self-worth from that person. I know it's easier said than done but there are songs I still can't listen to as they remind me too much of times that I was hopelessly optimistic in the love he didn't have for me.
Of course crushes can be good and although I've not experienced it I'm sure they are often mutual. Don't lose yourself in somebody else, ground yourself in your own morals and beliefs, it sounds silly but getting over a crush can be just as painful as getting over a relationship yet nobody gives people credit for getting over a crush despite the love that was surrounding it.
I've thrown all the emotions I had into people who realistically didn't even notice.
I'm not saying that crushes are bad but I do want to share some advice. A crush is the same as lust, when you lust over someone you need to draw a line at some point or you will forget what you deserve.
The line between infatuation and love is very faint but still there, PLEASE TRY TO FIND IT. Love is a very strong word that is misused over and over again and I hope for your sake that it is infatuation. This isn't because infatuation is somehow less important because I know how compelling and obsessive any form of crush can be but ultimately love is harder to get over and creates much more heartbreak in the long term. Crushes fundamentally change us and shape us into people ready to find long-term life partners, they even help to develop and find our sexuality within a world of confusing lessons. No matter how you feel about someone, whether the love is requited or not please remember that you are strong enough and have the power to get over any love that you have for anyone. You create the love and can therefore overpower it, never let it control you.
Love is mutual, equal and never one-sided. Closure is ideal but protect your own heart before you go loaning it to other people.
-Hannah xx